Dear Jimmy,
Good day! In a certain relationship, there is a so called privacy of a person. This privacy limitsyour relationship to Shelley, that is because there is a need for her to kept her secrets. She does not need to tell you everything. Sometimes she needs space. It only shows that you have to adjust so that you will not have cat and dog relationship(away bati). people tend to share everything but there is still a need for them to have personal space, where they can keep their emotions, secrets, feelings and whatever they to keep.
Although is natural to desire a close and permanent bond in our interpersonal relationships, on relationship can endure unless the invovled individuals spend time alone. Too much closedness results the lose of individual identity.
Relational partners need predictability along with a sense of assurance in their interpersonal relationships. However, without the spice of variety that comes from novelty, mystery, and spontaneity in relationships (featuring too much predictability), they become bland and monotonous.
In an interpersonal relationship, communication partners feel the pressure to be transparent and reveal extensive personal information. However, this pull counters a natural individual desire for privacy. This dynamic struggle demonstrates that intimacy in relationships is not a straight-line path.
So my advice is to put a distance between your self and Shelley. You don’t need to ask her of the things she keeps in private because you are only limited to share a few but not all. She doesn’t have to tell you everything. She needs a space so that she pour out whatever she has to. Privacy is something that maintains a good relationship.A good relationship needs privacy in order for them to visualize things that are not good or bad. I fyou really love her then you have to respect her decisions. Because if you don’t, you’ll have the worst nightmare of your life.
Quincy
